The Art of Active Seeing

Brian Osher

What can be the hardest job in the world to do well?In my opinion, PARENTING is a front runner in that race! Of course most of us can say that we provide for our children. They have warm clothes, food in their bellies, and a soft place to sleep at night. However, deep inside, we all know that being a good parent means more then simply providing our kids with the basics.

As parents, we need to nurture our children’s souls as well.

This means taking the time and making a concentrated effort to really see our children for what they are. Sure, our kids may be outwardly healthy (thank God!), but what is really going on within? If you look closely enough, you may find that a truly happy child will almost glow with contentment. And, on the flip side, unfortunately, a child in emotional distress may present with sad, angry, or even vacant eyes. Of course no one feels truly happy all of the time. However, it can be helpful as a parent to observe your children and take note of how they are feeling most of the time.

Oftentimes, a child’s words may not accurately reflect the way that he or she is really feeling.

How many times (even in a day) do we ask our kids, “How are you?”, “How was school?” etc., only to receive the typical response of “Fine”? I am suggesting that we take time to look beyond the outward and expected and instead try to see our kids on a deeper and more meaningful level.

Over the years we have heard a lot about “active listening”. I am suggesting that we add to that popular and valuable concept the art of “active seeing”.

Here are some tips to help get you started:

1)Try to spend some quiet time with your child everyday. This can mean walking to school together, preparing a meal together, etc. Anything you can do that will give you some uninterrupted time to talk with and observe your child.

2)Observe how your child interacts with others. Does your child exhibit a different mood or demeanor depending upon who he or she is with at the time? Then take a few moments to make sense of your observations.

3)Get involved! By getting and staying involved with your child’s activities, you are not only intentionally spending quality time with him or her, but you are also putting yourself in a position to see them and interact with them in their element.

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Brian Osher founded GAIN Life Coaching in March, 2007, to pioneer his vision of creating a top notch, global company firmly rooted in his commitment to make coaching accessible to everyone and to give back to the community.

GAIN started as a dream for Brian, who has worked very hard from the ground up in life. His tenacity for excellence and living a life of purpose and fulfillment for himself and his family are what make coaching with Brian both refreshing and unforgettable. Brian’s message to all clients who work with GAIN coaches is this: “We’ve all stood in your shoes, working through challenges and struggles in front of us. We believe that you have gifts and special talents to catapult your life to a better place. We are here to partner with you to make a leap of faith. You will not be alone on your path. Every step of the way, we will cheer you on and see you to the finish line!”

A born entrepreneur, Brian is poised in the art of helping others create powerful strategies for success. His coaching style is energetic, positive, highly motivating and results-focused. Brian is always ready to walk with you every step of the way, making your goals practical and attainable, ending each meeting with purposeful steps.

Brian has a firm belief that all things are possible once we put our minds to it. He thrives on creating bridges between what may seem unattainable to tangible goals, making them a reality. An exceptional communicator, Brian has had the privilege of working with high-quality individuals and teams. Having coached a broad spectrum of clients-from small business startups to others needing a fresh start in life-Brian has a strong desire to help others make meaningful progress in their lives. He believes that everyone has great ideas with tremendous value. A visionary, he thrives on helping his clients embrace true potential by tapping into their unique calling.

Brian comes from a business background, specializing in project management, consulting, training and team building. Highly regarded as a Leadership Trainer with expertise in Personal and Business Productivity, Time Management and Training Program Management, Brian is a graduate of the University of Phoenix and CoachU. An engaging public speaker, Brian’s professional affiliations include Toastmaster’s International and the International Coach Federation.

Brian encourages you to stop wishing and start taking action by turning your dreams into your new life.

Brian OsherLife CoachFounder | President GAIN Life Coaching